Wednesday, December 21, 2011

I Am His Lovie

Do your babes have lovies?
When I was little, I had a little stuffed bunny my aunt made me, which I named Lullabye. Cute, I know. I still have it.

So far, Burkley does not have a lovie. We'll see if one day he develops a liking toward a stuffed animal, blankie, or some other item.
But for now, I am his lovie.
He sleeps best when I am next to him.
If he's stirring, I can calm him by just laying a hand on him.
Another strange (to me) thing that calms him down is having his fingers in my mouth.
Ever since he could reach my mouth while nursing, he's had his fingers in my mouth. I know some kids suck on their own fingers. Well, my kid needs ME to suck on them! In the night, when he's stirring, if putting my arm across him and snuggling him close like I used to do with my own stuffed bunny, doesn't work, then grabbing his hand and putting his fingers in my mouth will usually work like a charm. Weird, I know. If none of those things work, then it's nursing that will soothe him easily.

You know, I think he is my "lovie" as well. It's gotten so that I can't sleep without him having to nurse. When he's sleeping in his crib (sidecarred to our bed) and I come up to sleep, I just lay there and lay there unable to fall asleep until he rouses and needs to nurse. I've found that it's become my habit as well to "nurse to sleep." I'm not sure if this is good or bad, as eventually I would like to sleep through the night without nursing. But, until then, we work together in a balanced dance of soothing each other and calming one another off to a listless sleep each night.

Laying in his crib before I come up to bed: I point the video monitor right at him so I can run upstairs and soothe him if he fusses without him ever fully waking up.

I love waking up to this sweetness every morning!

5 comments:

  1. I love that you posted this. It was the same for all 4 of my kids, I was their lovie too. I couldn't fall asleep without nursing too. It naturally changed, and now of course we all can go sleep without nursing, well except the little one! Though I now know how fast they grow, and what a wonderful start to life this is!

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  2. Such a sweet post! I've loved being Kieran's lovie for the past 4 years :)

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  3. Adorable as ever! Sasha, too, has never chosen a lovie, other than me. Daddy can sometimes calm her from rousing as well, but he feels it really is ALL me. I've even encouraged her on occasion, but no single lovie has stuck for more than a week or so.

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  4. Oh, and I bought my older daughter her first baby doll for her first birthday and I made her a quilt when she was a baby, too.

    She is 13yo and still sleeps with both of these when she is at home.

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  5. I was hoping that my parenting choices (on-demand nursing, co-sleeping, baby-wearing) would eliminate a need for a lovie...and I was right!!

    My aunts asked me, what I was going to buy/make for her special item, as both of their children had one (one aunt went so far as to buy 2 of the one item for cleaning rotation). I told them that I didn't want my child's needs to be met by an inanimate object, that I wanted to be that "item". They scoffed at me, about that, about not wanting a crib, about not wanting any bottle feeding supplies, about not wanting plastic toys/teethers.

    It's always been sad to me that I've got no support in my family, but it renews my spirit to hear from like minded parents. Thank you.

    CLoveR

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